Patient: What are the chances my cancer is gone and doesn't come back?
Doctor: First, I have to qualify my prognosis by saying I’m Cancer-Free Privileged. I don’t have cancer and every single day that fact benefits me in tangible and intangible ways. In our society, it’s just better not to have cancer, and even though I didn't choose to be cancer-free, I still come out ahead because of it.
Patient: ...okay, but why would that impact your ability to answer my question?
Doctor: Oh it won’t. Well, it kind of does since it’s part of who I am and it impacts everything. I mean, if I had cancer my experiences would be different, I’d be able to better relate to you.
Patient: Doc, just tell me your conclusion and your confidence level, I don’t want to sound cruel, but I don’t care what your medical history is, we’re discussing my future. And of course your experience could be different, but since we don’t know how that would impact your conclusion, why don’t you lay out what you think and why you think it, and we’ll let that stand on its own.
Doctor: Okay, but just to be clear I’m not apologizing for my cancer-free privilege, just qualifying my opinion.
Patient: Please just give me the prognosis and describe how you arrived at it.
Doctor: Also, I should mention that I’m cisgendered…